Living Behind the Veil

I'm often asked what I wear in Afghanistan and what it's like to wear a veil. It's freedom. Freedom to have a bad hair day, freedom to arrange my chadar to conceal the curve of my breasts and backside, freedom to not be an expatriate for a little while. It means freedom to hide even on the street from the Afghan men's eyes which seem to strip me naked.
When I relax my shoulders and walk less purposefully, less confidently, my eyes downcast and covered by sunglasses, I pass for an Afghan woman. I hear the men whisper in Dari, "Is she a foreigner or local woman?" I chuckle but am silent. On the street, I'm also a free target....freely exposed to groping, sexual innuendos whispered to me as a man bicycles by, free to have stones thrown at me, freely seen as no one's wife, daughter, sister, mother, friend, or boss. I step inside my gate, and remove my chapan and chadar. Now I'm someone's boss, motherhood returns to me as little steps run to greet me, and I receive a kiss from my adoring husband. Now I'm free to his loving and gentle eyes which know and enjoy my curves, free to once again be under the protective umbrella of being a wife, mother, friend, colleague, boss, niece, sister, daughter, woman.

Risk Resources


This page is continually being added to and reveals key subtopics included in a comprehensive practical Theology of Risk for global workers in front-line risk areas.

Feel free to download and use!    

ARTICLE

ONLINE SECURITY TRAINING


GENERAL RISK RESOURCES

RISK MANAGEMENT

RISK AND THEOLOGY

RISK AND SUFFERING

PASTORING PEOPLE IN RISK

RISK AND SECURITY ANALYSIS

RISK AND DECISION MAKING 

UNDERSTANDING ISSUES "BEHIND THE RISK" ANALYSIS
RESOURCES FOR EQUIPPING PARENTS TO MORE EFFECTIVELY GUIDE THEIR CHILDREN LIVING IN RISK  
The following resources have been put together by a real mom who has and is guiding her children through risk at various stages of child-development . The first document has had extensive input from parents across the CAME region.

The additional eight documents have been selected with the following values: a lot of white space (i.e. not wordy, scholarly, and practical for parents in risk); with a variety of styles and situations (home and classroom); and integrated and holistic. Some of the documents are repetitious, but in a different style, so use whatever works for your child in your risk situation. 

Disclaimer: These combined resources do NOT replace clinical assessment, and you are highly encouraged to have your children clinically assessed on home leave if you have been living in/near a war zone or experienced trauma during your past term to make sure you’ve done everything possible for them to process trauma. 

Lay Equipping of Parents - v. 04.24.16 - written by real parents who've actually done it!

Eight Additional PDF Documents:
MEMBER CARE RESOURCES
The following are secure-sensitive documents. You may contact the administrator to request these documents, however, you must provide a verifiable company and identity in your request in order to receive these documents.
  • Coaching & Counselor List across Central Asia and the Middle East 
  • Rest places across Central Asia, the Middle East, and Europe for those in Kingdom Work
  • CAME MC Newsletter for those in Member Care in the CAME region. (This is a monthly newsletter Neal and I write and publish and the initials stand for Central Asia and the Middle East Member Care Newsletter)


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