Living Behind the Veil

I'm often asked what I wear in Afghanistan and what it's like to wear a veil. It's freedom. Freedom to have a bad hair day, freedom to arrange my chadar to conceal the curve of my breasts and backside, freedom to not be an expatriate for a little while. It means freedom to hide even on the street from the Afghan men's eyes which seem to strip me naked.
When I relax my shoulders and walk less purposefully, less confidently, my eyes downcast and covered by sunglasses, I pass for an Afghan woman. I hear the men whisper in Dari, "Is she a foreigner or local woman?" I chuckle but am silent. On the street, I'm also a free target....freely exposed to groping, sexual innuendos whispered to me as a man bicycles by, free to have stones thrown at me, freely seen as no one's wife, daughter, sister, mother, friend, or boss. I step inside my gate, and remove my chapan and chadar. Now I'm someone's boss, motherhood returns to me as little steps run to greet me, and I receive a kiss from my adoring husband. Now I'm free to his loving and gentle eyes which know and enjoy my curves, free to once again be under the protective umbrella of being a wife, mother, friend, colleague, boss, niece, sister, daughter, woman.

Wednesday, March 17, 2021

April, May, & August 2021 Zoom RAM Training

Upcoming Risk Assessment and Management (RAM) Trainings with Neal and Anna! 

April April 21-24, 2021

May 24, 25, 26, 28, 2021

August 16, 17, 18, 20, 2021

The two-day Risk Assessment and Management (RAM) Training (4-days via Zoom) is an adult facilitated workshop experience. It is holistic, integrating faith and emotions along with training in practical risk assessment and management tools. This training is a companion to Facing Danger: A Guide Through Risk, by Dr. Anna E. Hampton.

 The graphic below illustrates the overlaps between the three major risk preparation categories:


The RAM Training enhances all three categories by providing a framework for prayerful and Holy Spirit guided implementation in each risk situation.

1.      How is the RAM workshop unique from other crisis debrief training?
RAM Training addresses the challenge of emotional-psychological-relational-spiritual preparation all field workers need at every leadership level.  

Because uncertainty is one of the most challenging aspects of living long-term in increasingly risky field situations, the RAM Training addresses decision making in risk. 


Through RAM Training combined with the Facing Danger book, field workers learn how to analyze risk in uncertainty, how do address increasing anxiety, understanding one’s predictable responses in risk, and understanding what holistic risk assessment and management looks like.  RAM Training provides a biblical foundation addressing the Theology of Risk exegetically and holistically, so workers better understand their thinking and emotions in the risk situation.

2.      What will an attendee be able to do after attending the workshop?

  • RAM equips participants with a scalable risk management protocol – one that is easily adapted to any risk environment.
  • RAM provides a guide for using the Bible to discern risk rather than an anecdotal Biblical model.
  • RAM guides both leaders and individual team members in how to make sure they have responsibly and comprehensively calculated risk from rational, emotional, and spiritual perspectives.
  • RAM Training equips workers with the key components of decision-making and discernment in risk.
  • RAM Training augments other stress-resilience and security training by helping field workers discern which risks they are called to minister in; in short, when to stay and when to go.
  • RAM participants will be equipped to better communicate about risk with other field workers, their own children, their leadership, and sending partners.


Contact ramworkshops at  gmail  com for more info or questions!

For more about the Risk Assessment and Management Training, go to this web page:

 To access the April/May/August Registration form, contact me to request the registration form and for more information.